We’re hardwired to see the problems, the threats, the dangers and the risks.
This is great for survival of course. But not so great when it’s all you see.
What you focus on grows. What you give your time, energy and attention to will grow.
Until all you see is relentless problems. You’re blindsided. You fail to see all you’ve achieved, all you’ve overcome and all the opportunities around you.
That person that used to rise and shine has long gone, you now just rise and whine.
And it’s not attractive to be around. Think about how it’s affecting you firstly and then think about how it affects those around you, at home and at work.
Remember this: having problems will be permanent in life. But one specific problem will never be permanent. You can find a way to overcome it or accept it and move on.
“Your biggest problem is that you think you shouldn’t have problems”.
And remember a lot of your problems started as great ideas. And you’ll ignore a problem until it becomes a crisis. So kill the monster while it’s a baby. Make sense? It’s far easier that way. Losing a tonne of weight is hard. Battling to prevent a divorce is hard. Fighting to save your job or business is hard. And it all could’ve been less hard if you saw the signs and took action.
Problems and adversities reveal the real you. So be the one that remains composed and unrattled. Be the one that faces them head on and deals with them. And in the process, you learn, grow and become stronger.
Easier said then done? Yes. There’s some hardcore problems in life to deal with. But with the right mindset and support, you’ll build your resilience and keep growing.
Or you could just remain a victim or a villain.
There’s an excellent book by Donald Miller, called ‘Hero on a Mission: A Path to a Meaningful Life’. He says that in life we choose to play the character of either:
1. The Victim
2. The Villain
3. The Hero
4. The Guide
So choose to be your own hero. And then show others, guide them.
Or stay stuck on the pitty-potty or angry with the world.
Your choice…
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